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Who Will Sit With You In The Ashes Of Despair?

Job was a righteous man, perfect in all his ways. He shunned the very presence of evil, but it was during the highlight of his life that evil struck.


The Lord removed the hedge of protection from around Job and allowed the enemy to attack him.

When Satan struck, suddenly Job lost his children and all his wealth in one day.

Later he lost his health, and he was cast off to the ashes of despair.

It appeared as if God had forsaken Job. Even his wife seemed to desert him.

Job’s wife said to him, “Are you still holding on to your integrity? Curse God and die!”

Obviously, Job reminded God of his life of integrity and uprightness, similar to King Hezekiah, with the expectation that God would deliver him as a result of his righteous lifestyle.

However, without seeing any signs of deliverance, Job rebuked his wife.

“You speak as one of the foolish women speaks. Shall we indeed accept good from God, and shall we not accept adversity?” In all this Job did not sin with his lips. (Job 2:10)

Job did not sin by charging God with wrongdoing, but was determined to remain faithful to God in spite of his destitution.

While Job was in this low shameful state, three of his friends came to visit him.


They came to comfort him, but were shock when they saw his deplorable condition.

Job’s entire body was filled with putrefying boils and he sat pitifully in the ashes scraping his soars with a piece of pottery.

Is there any words that can comfort someone in this state, especially a person who was faithful to God all his life?

It was impossible!

So, the three friends tore their robes, sprinkled dust on their heads and sat in the ashes with Job for seven days and nights without saying a word.

Who is Your friend?

Is he the person to whom you share your dreams and secret thoughts?

Is your friend someone you can trust?

Who is your friend?

Is your friend your drinking partner who sits with you during the happy hours?

Can you find frienship among the people who follow your wealth and fame?

Who is your friend?

Health, wealth, and fame lack no friends.

They attract praise from countless fans.

But, are they your friends?

The prodigal son had many friends to help spend his wealth,

Wining and dining until it was all spent.

But, when hard times hit the friendship wane.

Penniless and homeless he became invisible to his friends.


“Who are you?” The friends asked.

Lonely, rejected and destitute, the prodigal was cast into the pig pen of shame.

Where are all his friends?

Surely they must see his plight.

But, who will care when you are down in the pit?

Where is the crowd?

Where are the followers?

Where are the friends?

Who will mourn your loss and share your pain?

Who will sit with you in the ashes of despair?


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  1. Reblogged this on Becoming the Oil and the Wine and commented:

    I was inspired to reblogged the following post by an article entitled “Thank You” written by Deandra of Imago Dei. In her post she mentioned that during a time of severe distress the Lord provided a friend who prayed with her and speak life into her situation. This friend helped her to bounce back from her depressive state. In spite of her problems she was able to take the time to say thank you to her fellow bloggers. Deandra’s testimony brought back memories of a similar situation that I encountered in 2016. The devil managed to sneak into my normally peaceful household and turned it upside down. I was devastated! I had no friends or relatives to call. In my emotionally distraught state I could not find the words to pray. I could only holler and bawl. But, tears are prayers too. My pastor and some of my church sisters came over to my house and prayed with me. But, God knew that I needed more than prayers and He sent me someone who was a stranger at that time to sit with me in my ashes of despair. I then remembered Job and his trials and was inspired to write the folowing post, Who will sit with you in the ashes of despair?
    Some of my friends right now are believing God for a miracle in their lives. Some of them are facing some terrible prognosis and are asking God, why me? Some of my friends’ love ones are incapcitated, some are hospitalized and they are the only caregiver so they need strength from the Lord. Some of my friends are suffering from chronic illnesses and are constantly in pain, but they are still trusting in the Lord for their healing and restoration. Some of my friends are caring for children with congenital abnormalities and mental disabilities. These parents are facing a tough battle on a daily basis and they need prayers and support. Some of my friends are financially disabled and are on the verge of poverty, but they are still trusting in God for their breakthrough. Today, I want to encourage you that the God whom you serve today and all of your life is still the same God who parted the red sea and tore down the walls of Jericho with a shout of praise. He is God yesterday, today and tomorrow. Hallelujah!
    Don’t give up! Don’t let go of the hand of Jesus in spite of how powerful the waves are tossing. Never forget that in your hour of greatest need, you are never alone because the Lord is with you and He will also send you a friend who will sit with you in the ashes of despair.


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