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Should Teens Date?

Sometimes there are moments in life that teens want to know how it feels to be committed. Many teenagers are interested in forming a relationship with the opposite sex, one that is meaningful. So what should parents know about dating? Is dating right, wrong or a part of life?

Some parents believe that dating should start when a child is out of college and more mature, but like everything in life, I think that it should start earlier. Would you tell your child that he or she has to wait until he or she has graduated from college to learn about managing money, budgeting and purchasing a car or a house? No. Why? Because at that time it would be too late.

They would have to learn the hard way. If they had the habit of spending all the time in high school and college,they would continue to spend throughout their adult life. Yes, budgeting and thinking money is a huge responsibility for a teen, especially when they have to think about school. After all a parent should think about that, but if a teen cannot learn about responsibility now while learning from their parents, they would learn the hard way.

Here is a next scenario. Successful women who are career focused cannot find a partner or have a hard time dating. Why? Because these same ‘career focused’ women, were also focused on education in their former years and was not interested in dating. Of course we understand the reasons why parents would be concerned that their daughters are dating in high school. Peer pressure, teenage pregnancy and immature young boys who take advantage of their little girls, but parents may allow their daughters to begin dating in college.

Studies show that at college age, teens are more mature and are more responsible. In high school, parents should focus on teaching their sons and daughters about the negative effects of teen pregnancyand pre-marital sex, what to look for in a partner, and how to handle situations such as break up. At this time they are learning the theory and is not ready for dating. But as soon as they graduate, although we are not encouraging them to spend their college years looking for a boyfriend or a girlfriend, we are sure that if they ever do start dating, they are well-equipped and can apply what they have learned.

Learning how to balance a relationship and school can help for her to balance family life and job. If you refuse your children to have a ‘monitored’ experience now, then you would be in for a shock when they begin their adult life. The majority of teen pregnancies, abuse, and infidelity in relationships occur when parents are too strict and so their children become rebellious, or parents do not have in interest in their child’s life and so children become care-free. Be interested in your child’s life, teach them about dating and allow them to be trusted. Adult women and men that have successful relationships today have begun dating in college, have maintained good grades and had parents who looked out for them.

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  1. This post was written by my daughter. She is fifteen years old and she has strong views about dating which she shared with you. I personally believe that teenagers should wait until they have received their professional career before they begin dating. However, after reading this article I am a little more understanding to her desire to date in college.

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