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“Lovest Thou Me More Than These”

Conversation between the Bride and the Groom before the marriage ceremony.

So when they had dined, Jesus said to His Bride,

Church, children of the living God, lovest thou me more than these?”

The Church replied to her Groom,

“Yea, Lord; thou knowest that I love thee.”

Jesus saith unto her, “Feed my lambs.”

Jesus said to the Church again the second time,

Church of the living God, lovest thou me?”

The Church replied to Him, “Yea, Lord; thou knowest that I love thee.”

Jesus said to the Church, “Feed my sheep.”

Jesus said to Church the third time,

Church, my people who are called by my name, lovest thou me?”

The Church was grieved because He said unto her the third time, Lovest thou me?

And she said unto him, “Lord, thou knowest all things; thou knowest that I love thee.”

Jesus saith unto her, “Feed my sheep.” (John 21:15-17)

In the above passage, Jesus was speaking specifically to Peter, one of His disciples.

I have substituted Peter for the Church.

When looking at the entire chapter we can see quite clearly the implications towards the church.

If ye love me, keep my commandments (John 14:15)

The Lord at His departure commanded us to go into all the world to preach/teach the gospel, baptizing them in the name of the Father, Son and Holy Spirit, and whoever believed and baptized are saved (Mark 16:15-16; Matthew 28:19-20).

In other words, we ought to be fishers of men, spreading the good news of salvation and winning souls for Christ.

However, the Church has lost its focus and many of us are busy building our personal lives.

Some of us are busy trying to make ends meet while others are busy accumulating more wealth.

The Church consists of people with many different personalities.

Some people are doubters like Thomas who had to see and feel to believe in the Lord Jesus Christ.

Some people are like Peter who when troubles strike quickly give up their faith.

While others remain faithful in prayer and fasting waiting for the rerturn of the Lord.

The Church is divided in their agenda. Hence, the Lord is calling us to unity.

The Lord wants us to seriously consider our relationship with Him.

Do we truly love Him?

Or are we just pretending to love Him when we are gathered together in the church houses.

Three times Jesus asked us, “Lovest thou me more than these?”

Do we love Jesus more than the provisions?

Do we love Jesus more than families and friends?

Do we love Jesus more than our material possessions?

Do we love Jesus more than power and positions?

Do we love Jesus more than money?

Do we love Jesus more than our lives?

How can we prove our love for Jesus?

The Lord said that we can prove our love for Him by feeding His sheep.

This instruction is not only directed to the Pastors and leaders, but to all of us.

We ought to feed the Lord’s sheep.

The sheep is all of us who are called by the name of the Lord. All of us who are followers of Christ.

Thus, it means that we ought to feed each other.

The word feed means to provide nourishing food to others.

It means encouraging each other.

Feeding the sheep also means giving to the poor and helping the less fortunate when it is in the power of our hands to do so.

Jesus said when we give to the poor, clothe and shelter the homeless it is the same as helping Him directly.

By doing all these things we prove our love for Jesus.

Therefore, when the Lord ask us the fourth and last time, “Lovest thou me more than these?”

We can truthfully answer, “Yes Lord, we love you.


Let the marriage ceremony begins!



  1. Beverley, this is really good stuff! Thank you for sharing!

    This passage fascinates me. Something I never knew before until hearing N.T. Wright teach on this, the first two times Jesus asked this, he said “do you agape me?” and Peter responded, “yes Lord, I phileo you.” The third time Jesus asked “do you phileo me?” Jesus is amazing and meets us where we’re at to get us where he wants us! Blessings sis!

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    • Thank you for sharing also. I think I have heard this message of the different meaning of love in Peter’s response. I woke one morning with this passage of scripture on my mind. When I read it I relialized that Jesus is asking us if we really and truly love and care about Him above everything else in our lives. When we look at the state of the Church, it is doubtful if we do.

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  2. Awesome post Beverley, it brought to mind this scripture:

    “And the King shall answer and say unto them, Verily I say unto you, Inasmuch as ye have done it unto one of the least of these my brethren, ye have done it unto me.” Matthew 25:40

    That’s how much we love you, Lord, and we say …even so, come, Lord Jesus.

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    • Thank you Susan. You have placed the icing on the cake. This scripture came to my mind as I was writing this post, but I completely forget to insert it in the post. 🙏💕


  3. Amen…this is so true. I love that you took out Peter’s name and entered the church name. It makes it even more relevant as to what we are called to be doing. We are to be physically feed where necessary, but also at this crucial time…spiritually feeding the needy.

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  4. This devotion calls for a self evaluation. Does my service for Christ mirror the word of my commitment?

    “And he said unto him, Lord, thou knowest all things; thou knowest that I love thee. Jesus saith unto him, Feed my sheep.”

    Peter was very aware that Jesus knew the intents of his heart and three times Jesus gave Peter a command to serve. Jesus also knows the intents of our hearts, and He knows where our loyalities lie. The third time Jesus asked Peter, He used Peter’s word for love that signified something less than total devotion, questioning even that level of love Peter thought he was safe in claiming. The lessons driven home to Peter grieved his heart. Christ desires that we learn these same lessons.

    Am I serving Christ as a loyal, dedicated, totally commited child of God, or do I serve Him only if it is convienent for me to do so? Let us look at our hearts. There may be something to grieve about.

    What about it friend? Are you totally devoted to Christ in every area of your life? Could you possibly be a crisis Christian, when the crisis comes then you come to Christ. When the crisis is over, then Christ is no longer needed. Perhaps you are a prosperity Christian? As long as things are going well you walk with God, but when trials and tribulations occur, your devotion wanes. How about it? Where do you stand? Are you fully devoted to Christ? If not, you can be. If you will be willing to forsake all for Him God will be willing to give all that He has to you. What about it friend? Why don’t you do it now?

    A very thought provoking post. May the Lord help us to be in right standing with him.

    Stay blessed my sister and have a great day.

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